I am a therapist who spends a lot of time talking about boundaries. I deeply believe in the importance of setting and holding firm boundaries. Still, being faced with a situation that tests my own boundaries reminds me of how hard it actually is to do! I am worried and anxious today because I have […]
Are you in a healthy relationship?
How can you tell if you are in a healthy relationship? I work with clients every day to try and answer this question, and it is always a hard question to answer. It’s hard to answer because it is different for every person, for every relationship. Clients often come […]
Risk and Reward: Vulnerability and Connection
I recently lead a group in a discussion about vulnerability. Doesn’t that sound like fun? No, vulnerability is definitely not fun! Who likes being vulnerable? Who likes opening themselves up to pain, rejection, embarrassment, loss? Nobody likes being vulnerable, but avoiding vulnerability also means avoiding true connection, which can […]
I usually start my day with reading the newspaper. It’s easy to let that lead into hopelessness, or at least discouragement. There are so many terrible things going on in the world. I start to feel hopeless about the sustainability of our planet, the senseless violence in my community and around the world, the racial […]
Show Up, Be Seen, Live Brave™
We all have days when we would rather stay in bed, pull the covers up over our head, and stay safe in our little cocoon. There are days when life seems like just too much. Depression, anxiety, shame, fear, and guilt keep us from showing up for our own […]