Walking the Walk: Not as Easy as Talking the Talk
I am a therapist who spends a lot of time talking about boundaries. I deeply believe in the importance of setting and holding firm boundaries. Still, being faced with a situation that tests my own boundaries reminds me of how hard it actually is to do! I am worried and anxious today because I have to tell someone [...]
Are you in a healthy relationship?
How can you tell if you are in a healthy relationship? I work with clients every day to try and answer this question, and it is always a hard question to answer. It’s hard to answer because it is different for every person, for every relationship. Clients often come to me asking if their relationship is “normal,” “healthy,” [...]
Risk and Reward: Vulnerability and Connection
I recently lead a group in a discussion about vulnerability. Doesn’t that sound like fun? No, vulnerability is definitely not fun! Who likes being vulnerable? Who likes opening themselves up to pain, rejection, embarrassment, loss? Nobody likes being vulnerable, but avoiding vulnerability also means avoiding true connection, which can lead to depression, loneliness, anxiety and isolation. Vulnerability is [...]
Got Hope?
I usually start my day with reading the newspaper. It’s easy to let that lead into hopelessness, or at least discouragement. There are so many terrible things going on in the world. I start to feel hopeless about the sustainability of our planet, the senseless violence in my community and around the world, the racial inequality in our [...]
A Summer of Gratitude
Many things have happened this summer to remind me to be grateful for the blessings in my life. I am planning to focus on gratitude this summer, to appreciate the good and pay less attention to those things that I would prefer to be different. I invite you to join me. Here is my list of suggestions to [...]